Again the only reason I state this is because I think the transitional stage, where you accept that you feel what you feel BUT stop putting the blame on someone else, is am important stage. Once you fully absorb that stage then moving on to look at how you let yourself feel certain emotions when certain things happen is another interesting stage.
I think this is an excellent point modifying the excellent suggestion made by LP. For instance, it would have been slightly ridiculous and somewhat dishonest for me to say to my 2bx "I let myself feel hurt, inadequate and rejected when you said that I was too nerdy to f*ck" when clearly his intention wasn't to make me feel great by saying it. So maybe sometimes it is good to add a line to such statements such as "but really I should have felt angry because that might have been more productive in leading me to a state of "don't give a cr*p what you say" or if I existed on some much higher plane I might have felt compassion for anyone who was such a loser that they felt the need to say such a thing."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
