Sleeping w/ lil' ones can be hazardous to your health, I agree. As for the teeth grinding, well....there's a household full of them here, but w/ all our other issues it's at the bottom of the pile right now ;-/.
Everytime I read one of your posts here I think the same thing. This women brings it all, a kinda complete one-stop shopping where you wouldn't have to go anywhere else. (Only analogy I could come up with this morning b/f caffiene, sorry). You have so many good ideas (complete w/references, explanations, & insights)on almost every situation that you/we encounter, and have such an attracting way about you, (not to mention your good looks-I've seen a pic).
So, I look at your H taking your good ideas now, as you're prolly right, good ideas that he's implementing now b/c they were good ideas. H will never admit that o/c, at least not now.
Another thought about the "Disneyland Dad", is that he is receiving counsel from someone to fill his journal w/instances of his activites w/kids for future use should he need it to show what kind of father he is, & wants to list as much as possible. I don't mean to imply that he doesn't enjoy the activites, just that it can serve many purposes.
As far as the bigger house w/MIL or mother taking care of kids to have kids 50% of the time, it's my understanding that it doesn't work that way. His mother taking care of the kids while he isn't there & you're available doesn't cut it. If it ever got down to it, you can have an agreement to where if you're availble, you have 1st right to have your children w/you.
It's an unfortunate reality that we all have to think ahead & look at all the angles on this stuff in case we need it. It does make your stomach drop to consider "what could happen", and while it's good to keep the "could" in mind, it's better to have the "might not" happen in mind also when you can.
Your H is a tough one for me to read. It seems that he has a lot of anger issues that he might not be letting go of soon. I don't know tho, b/c of course I don't know him & know what he was like prior to this.
This too shall pass & there are so many people in this world that would be very unhappy if you just went "Pouf", including us here.
