Now is a terrific time to start back to church. That hour is a great time to get one's head in order whether or not you are particularly "religious". Plus, there are good resources there for families. The reason it freaks her out is that it will be yet one more public place where her sins will be "exposed" - I mean if she doesn't come it looks bad, if she does and people invite you to things as a family what will she say?
I also question whether she can just get alimony as a matter of course. In MD there are twenty or so factors that must be met in order to get alimony. Some have to do with fault, most have to do with the W's ability to earn a living on her own (whether she has a degree, work history and such), and it is expected to be time limited, used in order to get the person "on their feet".
You did terrific in the throwdown. I would have been sorely tempted to say, "Well, maybe I should live with your parents since they like me better than you lately." How ridiculous to expect you to live with your in-laws. She isn't thinking.
Good luck - you really deserve some of this to go your way soon.
