The good thing I've noticed is that when I get an idea I will throw myself into it 110%, which is good cos it gets things moving. H is more cautious, which is good as it means things get done properly and we can be sure it's the right thing. My way is bad cos I can bulldoze people, H's way is bad cos if left to his own devices, nothing would ever get done. What I'm saying is I've noticed the good and the bad in both of us and how well we compliment each other - H reigns me in, I give H the push to get going he sometimes needs. The result is well balanced.
That is so true of many here, only most (like me) find it out too late. The "dominate" partner takes control to get things done but then is considered *controlling* by the other partner.
You have found balance and that is wonderful. Wonderful, but SO SO difficult to maintain b/c of our very nature to keep things moving.
Give when you can but set boundaries. Not many boundaries - life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Let your H be who he is and I think you both will do well. Continue to share your feelings - discussing feelings is the best way to avoid the "bulldozing".
