I have no idea about any abuse, but what I do know is that she has no job and has no intentions of getting one. I also know that the property that they have 2 campers on is in his name and both travel trailers are his (one for them, one for his daughter). She is living under his roof and his rules but is too blind to see that she really is being "controlled"
I know they drink the hard stuff as I have a bank statement sent to me by mistake last year and it shows several liquor store purchases for the same amount (She only drank beer and wine for all the time I knew her) and my son says that they would drink every night when he was there visiting.
I believe drinking the hard stuff and not facing up to her problems and issues with her son and I is making things worse. I do believe that drinking has caused her to get back to size 18-20, the size she was before she left.
I don't know about abuse but I do feel he has total control. She has only a vehicle and a couple of items to her name.
One more thing that I forgot to mention that bothers me is that she never checked on the wellbeing of our dog and cat yesterday, I guess this wall of hate or whatever it is will never come down for her to see the truth.
Like my sister said, she did not deal with any problems before she left her home, only added new ones with what she is doing now.
I don't know if it is shame or guilt for not looking someone in the eye or avoiding them alltogether. The only thing she told my sister was "please don't hate me".
An impossible task given the present circumstances.
