mkultra, I don't really know how to handle that. I do think it definitly matters. I don't think my W has another right now, she just doesn't know what she wants right now (i think a little MLC). I think in your sitch knowing would be worse then not knowing. I think if you knew, it would still eat at you. At least it would be for me. I used to do the snooping stuff looking at emails and stuff but I never found anything and I realized it isn't worth it and just stopped. As far as reconciliation, I do wonder, when and if we straighten things out, how do we move on from there? Do I just forget about everything that has happened between us and go on. I know that all of us have been hurt pretty bad and just hiding those feelings will just eat at us. Maybe that is what this board is for. We can get support through each other.
