I have been wearing my ring for the last month...I am considering taking it off and changing my approach with my W. I have always been friendly and doing everything that she has asked. She asked for me to pick up D3 and take home. It is like an half hour away. I will still do this. W complains that I am selfish. This would be selfish on my part. When she gets back into town on Monday, I'll tell her that D3 did really great and suggest that I would like to start having weekends with D3. I am going to start being friendly, say hello, be brief and then leave immediately. We are going to the circus on July 1st. I wonder how that will go. She filed last spring and she backed out after we went to counseling and Retrouvaille. She is stubborn right now. She continues to blame me for leaving the house initially. I came back after 2 weeks and she said she is done and that I left them. She blames me for EVERYTHING. A successful DBer suggested that I take off my ring and stop obsessing. I am going to work hard to do this and see the results.
