Xue - Kudos on getting through to this stage. I rather think you might get to pop the Opus in the next few days. Only, it may be chi without yi, to use your metaphor. Here's the elephant in your living room, from what I can see.
Originally Posted By: xuesheng
It came in stages. It also coincides with the timing of our 5 year deal. Sex life slowly decreased to once a month and then every other month. One day ( a couple months before our planeed negotiation) she asks me if adopting would work for me. It was a casual conversation and stupidly I say no. A month later I get "You know I'd give you a divorce so you could go have kids" I was blown away. I had never really pushed for kids and yes I sometimes thought it would be nice but I was never sure myself if I wanted them. Later she would tell me she would have to leave me because I would never be happy without them.
I may have missed an update on this topic, but could she still be feeling that by not wanting kids (or maybe not able to?) she is depriving you? Seems like she expresses her love with acts of service, so this may in fact be a bigger issue for her than most.
