Xuesheng, (nice name btw) I read thru this thread and then thru the most current threads I could find links too. My thoughts are not completely gelled yet, but I wanted to throw some thoughts and mental images out at you.
This is what jumps out at me. Your W's usage of and calling you alpha along with her sending you off to do battle, along with this comment by you "I don't want him but I'll be DAMNED if anyone else gets him either!"
depending on the sitch, when a woman calls me alpha, Ill either pretend to hump her leg, or yip and pant like a pomeranian. Nothing like being reduced to animal breeding referances to make you feel loved. [snort]
My first thought is... what is she reading, what light or perception does she see you in or want to see you in. Does she really want what she thinks she does... The way she is going about it makes it seem like its more about her, and the ability to parade you about, then it is about actually assisting you. Make sense? There is nothing wrong with what she wants, but I dont see how the way she is going about it is actually getting her what she needs. Fortunately this is where you can step up and point out to her kindly, firmly, unequivocally that her Yi needs adjustment. That will kill 2 birds with one stone. [thumbs up]
My second thought was her deameanor and tactics reminded me of the movie Unleashed. Lets say you are jet li. [coughcoughbendrealitycough] You are not The Man, when someone else is in charge of your collar. It doesnt matter how great of a [fighter,lover,poet,businessman] you are-- if someone else is pulling your strings in all other ways.
So my opinion is not that you need to make yourself scarce, so much as the need to not let her say when and where on your collar. Thats YOUR job. The next time she does it, you can simply directly, firmly say something like I appreciate your attempts to encourage me to do [blahblahblah]. I would appreciate you NOT....... doing it....... like that, anymore. [kiss-dropit] She is a smart girl. See what she does with it.
lastly, it wont be a terrible thing if you decide to preemptively go for sex/physical congress/ML/intercourse/rubbing uglies/horizontal hugging/mattress mambo/insert favorite euphemism here, prior to everything being perfect. Even if it leads to rejection. Rejection is not a negative. Its an opportunity.
I think I'll set that nice bottle of Opus one up on the counter and tell her I plan on drinking it to celebrate losing my virginity and I plan on drinking it soon.
LMAO. I am a HUGE fan of pizza and champagne. (Champagne for my real friends, and real Pain for my sham friends.... feel free to steal it, I did....) Its even better then peanut butter and pickles...and thats topnotch. Damn Im hungry now.
