Did some serious GAL this weekend, especially the 24-48 hours. W even had some alone time to think. Interaction was good when we saw each other today. Had a great time with some of the kids. Good times for all and got to do a few things I haven't done in awhile. I find I do like having fun, W was the shy timid one who was less likely to jump in. She has tried to change that, take most of the good parts of the old her, pick up what she feels she lack, then dump what she perceives is slowing her down(H). However I think that she doesn't see how intrigal H is to her past, present and future.
You can ignore the elephant sitting in the middle of the room, but at the end of the day, the elephant is still there. You can either work with the elephant and reach your goals, or dance around it and use what's left over. Odds are there's not much left to have if you don't work with the elephant.
Not saying I'm an elephant, but if you want everything to be the same you can't take out one of the most significant factors and have things be "just the same". W might be able to fake it, but kids won't. I read a book back when this all started that had the main character visited by his grandfather. The whole book was based around the wisdom the grandfather had in in regards to his M and the teachings of Christ and his scriptures.
I hope I can continue to apply what was taught in that book and rebuild my M. All said and done however, I am satisfied with what I have done and have decided W will make her own decision and we will have to live with what she has done. I know the kids will not forget what I have done. I guess the question is will W learn from what she has done before it is too late.
