Boy have I screwed up in the past. I think I have found what went wrong…. First let me say I took the five languages of love test. Physical Touch is my primary and Word of Affirmation and Quality time is pretty equal.
Now a little history.
When I met my wife I smoked cigarettes she did not smoke. But it did not seem to bother her. I never smoked in her house or when we were together in a car. Any way I don’t remember how long after we got married I quit. Fast forward now my daughter (10) (from a previous marriage) collapses one day and can not walk we rushed her to the hospital. They do not know what is wrong with her. I stayed at the hospital 24 hours a day on the third day my W told me I looked like I need a cigarette. That it was ok if I did. Well that was it I started smoking again. But I hid it. My daughter ended up having a staff infection in her leg mussels and was given antibiotics and was fine a few weeks later. Any way Like I said I became a closet smoker. I would smoke only when I was by myself. I would go out to my shop for a cigarette. I did not want my W to know I was smoking so I would avoid getting close to her so she would not smell the smoke. This went on for YEARS. Boys have I fu@ked up. Soooo now I need all of your help. I know it is going to be hard but I love my wife and I want to save my marriage. As of Monday I am Quitting. There I said it. Please…. Check up on me……
Soooo now my next problem is how do I start getting close again without hovering around her? I am going to ask her out next Saturday for a light dinner and dancing (ya gotta touch here). What I am going to ask her is how late she thinks her mom can watch our son that way she can decide how late she wants to stay out.
Talk to ya all later
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
