Waltzing toward acceptance

[PennyMB]

Matilda,

How are you doing? How was yoga? This winter I did pilates and loved it. I need to get back with it. I was just worried about you.
I have been listening to "Think and Grow Rich." It isn't all about how to become rich it is how to find yourself and believe in yourself. It is very good. If you guys get a chance it is different then most self help but it really makes you think about you. Which I believe we should all do. It is taking care
of us our selves. It delivers it in a different way. Try it if you get the chance.

Well I headed to a going away party for a friends daughter so I just wanted to see how it was going. Hang in there.....

[Yoyowife]

Hey Matilda,
How are you? It's sad to know that you, Penny, and I are at the same crossroads in our lives. Not crossroads that we ever wanted to encounter. We must be stong women not only for ourselves,but also for our families.

I've tried to contact a lawyer that my cousin, who is a lawyer, recommended. I've tried for two days and she is always with a client. The receptionist has taken my name and number for her to call back but she hasn't yet. I will try again tomorrow. I may have to get my cousin to intervene for me, they went to law school together.

Hang in there, I'm here for you.

Hugs,
Yoyo

[Dr LOve]

Mat
I hope you don’t mind but I am cross posting in all of your threads because I value all of your inputs and I want to make sure all of you see this. Please respond back in my thread thanks.

I found a “wife profile” test in the book I have been reading “the five languages of love” It about how different people need different things to feel they are loved. There is 1) touch, 2) words of affection 3) act of service 4) gifts and 5) quality time.

Buy answering these 20 questions it is supposed to reveal what your “love language is.
I have not asked my W for ANYTHING for the last 2 months. I was going to print this out and tell my W I am working on my problems and ask her if she would help me and would answer these questions for me. There is no writing involved you just circle a letter.

I’m going to ask her to answer these questions thinking what she would like her perfect husband to do.


What do you think?
Again I am sorry for cross threading this but it is important to me that I have all of your inputs.
(I a still going out Friday)

husband

[Dr LOve]

Mat
I hope you don’t mind but I am cross posting in all of your threads because I value all of your inputs and I want to make sure all of you see this. Please respond back in my thread thanks.

I found a “wife profile” test in the book I have been reading “the five languages of love” It about how different people need different things to feel they are loved. There is 1) touch, 2) words of affection 3) act of service 4) gifts and 5) quality time.

Buy answering these 20 questions it is supposed to reveal what your “love language is.
I have not asked my W for ANYTHING for the last 2 months. I was going to print this out and tell my W I am working on my problems and ask her if she would help me and would answer these questions for me. There is no writing involved you just circle a letter.

I’m going to ask her to answer these questions thinking what she would like her perfect husband to do.


What do you think?
Again I am sorry for cross threading this but it is important to me that I have all of your inputs.
(I a still going out Friday)

husband

[Dr LOve]

Mat
I hope you don’t mind but I am cross posting in all of your threads because I value all of your inputs and I want to make sure all of you see this. Please respond back in my thread thanks.

I found a “wife profile” test in the book I have been reading “the five languages of love” It about how different people need different things to feel they are loved. There is 1) touch, 2) words of affection 3) act of service 4) gifts and 5) quality time.

Buy answering these 20 questions it is supposed to reveal what your “love language is.
I have not asked my W for ANYTHING for the last 2 months. I was going to print this out and tell my W I am working on my problems and ask her if she would help me and would answer these questions for me. There is no writing involved you just circle a letter.

I’m going to ask her to answer these questions thinking what she would like her perfect husband to do.


What do you think?
Again I am sorry for cross threading this but it is important to me that I have all of your inputs.
(I a still going out Friday)

husband

[Yoyowife]

Matilda,
How are you?

Yoyo

[Matilda2]

I'm ok. Sad, but ok. Actually put money down for a lawyer yesterday. That felt yucky .....but a bout of reality which I need!

H came by last night....out of the blue! I was a bit abrupt and told him I wasn't ready to discuss financial stuff. He said "that is not why I'm here. I know your first priority is to find a new job!" He actually listened to me! (why NOW???) He STILL hasn't talked to his mother!!! She told me she hoped he did before she died.

[Yoyowife]

I'm actually dreading the meeting with the attorney that I have Tuesday. It makes it seem so final doesn't it. I'm just so melancholy. This is not what I envisioned for my 40's. I wanted to be happy and settled.

Your H is evidently ashamed of himself or he would have talked to his mother.

[JAK58]

MAtilda,

((((((hugs)))))) to you and to everyone else in this sitch such as it is.

Please remember it's not over by far and don't give up if you still want to fight for your M as your H seems still very much confused from what you have posted.

I think about you every day and you are in my prayers!

JAK

[Matilda2]

Another depressing reality: house hunting! We drove by four houses that we could afford to rent on my salary. D16 was horrified. She asked if she could live with her dad instead!!!
Maybe I need to rethink giving up this house and trying to refinance. I didn't want the responsiblity of the house and taxes. Wonder if there is another way????? Rent from H and he pays half the rent instead of alimony??????