Almost 8 months and counting

[Yoyowife]

My H's cousin's wife and I are very good friends. She is so angry at my H and thinks he has lost his mind. H's cousin also thinks that. My H has never even told him why he left me and they were very close before this happened. The cousin has caught him in so many lies, but never lets on that he knows he is lying.

Their D and my youngest D are very close and she stays with us quite a bit. Yesterday afternoon they wanted to go out to eat, but first they ran to Wal-Mart. They called and told me that my H's cousin and his wife be joining us for dinner out.

While we were at the restaurant cousin's cell phone rings and it's my H. Cousin tells him he is at Chili's and my H said oh, I'll talk to you later, I don't want to disturb your dinner. Cousin did not tell him who all was with him and his family. H then calls my D and she tells him she's at Chili's and he said oh you are with J and them. She said yeah. He said oh, well I'll talk to you later then.

Afterwards my D and their D and I did a little shopping. H called D again while we were in a store and asked where she was. He said so J bought your dinner and my D said yeah and dessert. That was basically the extent of the conversation.

J's D spent the night with my D. Today J's wife came over to swim with us. Her D said what's Dad doing? She said he's at B's shop (my H). J's wife said OW must be out of town because J and B met early for breakfast and to go over some plans. Usually when J calls B early on Sat. he lies and makes up some lame excuse why they can't get together. Of course, he is at OW's house. J said I don't know why he just doesn't admit it to me. He knows I know, because everyone is talking about them.

J's wife told me that J called B and told him that we all had eaten together. B said I bet they were talking about what a SOB I am. J said why would you say that? J said the women were at one end of the table talking and I was by the teenagers talking. B said I just figured they were saying I was a SOB.

Okay, so why is my H so worried about what we are saying about him? Guilty conscience? Why doesn't he admit he is involved with OW to his family and friends?