I'm so glad that you're feeling a bit better. And your daughter is some little lady, to be so protective of you and fight for you. I'm always amazed at the powerful directness of children. They get right to the point, bless them.
You have no need to feel "privileged" because your situation seems better than others. If your emotions and sensitivity lead you to react in a certain way, that's just you, the way you are. We all respond differently: and perhaps there's no right way or wrong way to respond to something that basically topples our whole lives.
To me, your husband strikes me as a basically very good man--maybe he is a traditionalist, like you. From my own experience, I would say that anti-depressants can be very helpful. They have been almost a life-saver to me. Certain ones can have a calming effect on the mind's tendency to run around in compulsive patterns. You do need an expert doctor skilled in prescribing these sorts of drugs, one who will monitor you carefully. Not everyone is comfortable with medication, but it can be extraordinarily helpful.
Remember that coming OFF these drugs ought to be monitored as well. You need to come off them gradually. Otherwise, you may find yourself desperate, unable to think clearly. if you go cold turkey, you are liable to plumb the depths.