Abandonment--definitely a conscious and subconsious fear of mine, something I am wrestling with.
I agree that it isn't just about sex, but of being emotionally vulnerable and open, knowing that the WAS just doesn't have those feelings. The thought that brought me to a screeching mess this week was "He is not going to ever love me again."
I don't know where the thought came from; I was in the car, listening to a pretty off-topic, up song. But it washed over me, and brought me to a very bad place. It took a long time to process, and I did some reading / talking to IC about the stages of grief. The last one is acceptence.
And maybe the WAS is the one who needs for us to accept where they are, and separate their choices from our own.
Can you post an overview of the stages you mentioned in the Abandonment book? I'd bet they were similar to grief...
