I don't know if this is kosher in the DB methods or not, but if it was me I'd hand her the phone and tell her to call him and tell HIM.
Place the burden where it belongs.
I'll never forget the scene in Hope Floats where the little girl packed her bag and followed her dad out the door. It was a PAINFUL scene, but the little girl finally saw her mom wasn't keeping her away from her dad -- it was on him.
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