Husband, I'm with the others, she may see the tes as "trying to change yourself" and at this point would probably tell you that people don't change. That's what my husband told me. Being a woman the my love languages my identify with are affirmation and and acts of love. I truly wish I had read this book about a year ago. Maybe I wouldn't be in this mess. Of course a year ago I never thought I needed to read it. Too bad we're not mind readers.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
YES I have heard the "that's the way you are you can't change" speech. Funny thing is though thru DBing and all of the great advice I have gotten here I have changed. I know if I stayed in crying, begging hovering around mode she would have been gone. It's just that I’m getting kind of antsy now. Like I said things "appear" to have settled. We are not going backwards but there is no real forward movement either.
husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Husband, I agree people can change, and they do. I too have changed. I see that I was doing many things wrong that contributed to our break up. I got too comfortable and took things for granted, but I definitely got a wake up call. I know now relationships don't develop and stay the same without proper care. It's sad that it took this to wake me up, but if we can see that then why can't the WAS see it too.
Just watch and try to speak the love language that is her. If you're not sure, why not try them all. She doesn't have to know what you are doing. You still have a glimmer of hope, go for it!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Pisces (February 19 - March 20) It may be time to take a stand for what you want, even if it's something you are reluctant to put into words. It doesn't matter if this isn't your usual style; go ahead and assert yourself. But don't get careless in your actions or you might inadvertently overplay your hand. Although the backlash could be more than you expect, don't buckle under the pressure. Playing the role of a victim won't help you move any closer to happiness.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
