I am going to do whatever I can to get my girls as much as possible. I will fight to be a huge part of their lives for the rest of my life. The thought of not being apart of their lives makes me sad and scared for them and me. Being a Daddy to these beautiful girls is a huge responsibility that I don't take lightly. I just want to make sure my influence on them is positive and that they will have the hard task of trying to find a guy like their Dad to marry.
I agree with you about my IL's they don't want to lose their D and grand kids. And you are right there is a bit of truth in what my W is saying.... But what she is saying IMO is not grounds for D.
Last night my W came home and tried to answer my question to her the other night. I asked her "how in the world do I talk to my girls before there wedding day and tell them that D is not an option. Marriage is not easy and takes a lot of work. You cannot take back the vows and covenent that you make." I will look like a hypocrite being D saying this to them. Well her answer last night was that Jesus is full of grace and mercy and forgiveness... I agree 100% with this...I also told her that Jesus is the great healer, savor, restorer, rebuilder, reconciler..... He gave us a book with the answers that we need and it says to me that D is wrong. She obviously took offense and said "this is why we are where we are at today, you are to oppinionated and to black and white." The conversation pretty much ended right there.
Yes, she is still using her faith to justify D and she has connected with Sandi Patty. This lady was a famous Christian singer in the 90's that did the same thing as my W is now doing. It now seems like she is encouraging Christian women to follow suit. Commit adultry, D, then marry your A partner.... I don't see where in the Bible where this kind of actions are encouraged or approved. If any of you out there catch your W reading the book "Falling Forward" hide it.... I have not read through it so I really do not know its message. But since my W is connecting with the author I can only imagine what it is says.
