H got a letter from my L and I haven't been speaking to him. He is freaking out, he has been leaving me vm's saying he is getting help please give him time, please don't divorce him he loves yme, he really messed up ,he is getting help, he has an appointment for therapy and will I please go- he can't belive he screwed up so bad again- etc.. I have ignored him except that he asked me to add him as a friend on myspace, I did and I have posted some happy comments to him but nothing serious about us. He talks to the kids but I have stayed busy- he called and wanted to take us to the springs on Sunday and cook out as a family- I haven't answered him yet. He got the kids on Wednesday night and wanted to take me with them to dinner- I nicely turned him down.
Hope I am doing what is right, I am really confused ,I am writing this mainly as a place to put my thoughts.
Lisa
I have been reading your sitch and you are doing good. You showed him you meant what you said and that is big. He is doing the work on himself without you doing the work for him. Its big on his part to admit it but be cautious that it isn't just to get you to stop the D and then backslide. If you want to stop it, tell him that if he doesn't continue with what he is doing you will put it back on without looking back. I would go to the springs just for a lets see how we get along together thing. Its good to test it out and see. But that is up to you and how much you can withstand.
