How are you making it? It is sad to think we are all this close to something that we didn't want. It is not a good feeling. GO to Matildas thread. I told her about a book and CD's a friend told me about them It isn't about getting rich it is finding the real you. It has made sense to listen to them so you start thinking for ourselves and for us. It is worth listening too.
You might think it is a business CD but listen to them for a while or read the book.
I just have that old numb feeling and that I have to start planning for the boys and myself. H has been nice but I know now why. He cares but just doesn't want to be married to me.
Our social life is the pits but maybe some day it will pick up. I have a hard time believing that even though everyone tells me it will. It is a lonesome world right now. Thank heavens for kids or I would drive my self nuts.
I hope you don’t mind but I am cross posting in all of your threads because I value all of your inputs and I want to make sure all of you see this. Please respond back in my thread thanks.
I found a “wife profile” test in the book I have been reading “the five languages of love” It about how different people need different things to feel they are loved. There is 1) touch, 2) words of affection 3) act of service 4) gifts and 5) quality time.
Buy answering these 20 questions it is supposed to reveal what your “love language is. I have not asked my W for ANYTHING for the last 2 months. I was going to print this out and tell my W I am working on my problems and ask her if she would help me and would answer these questions for me. There is no writing involved you just circle a letter.
I’m going to ask her to answer these questions thinking what she would like her perfect husband to do.
What do you think? Again I am sorry for cross threading this but it is important to me that I have all of your inputs. (I a still going out Friday)
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Mat, My emotions are like they are in a blender. I too have all of those feelings that you have. I get to the mindset that I don't want him if he is going to have such disregard for our family and then I get so sad thinking that in July, our anniversary, it will 21 years of marriage down the drain.
The lawyer I have been trying to get an appointment with finally called me back today. I have an appointment with her Tuesday. I know I have to stand up for what is fair, but I just don't want to fight. I just want it to be fair. It's hard when a business is involved, but I must think of the future. My income will be less than half of what I have been accustomed too.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Be strong, Yoyo! We can be assertive without being aggressive!!
Do you have something FUN planned for the weekend? Unfortunately my "fun" is mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, etc, etc. It will feel good when it's done, though. D16 did ask if I'd go to a movie with her.
My H's cousin's wife and I are very good friends. She is so angry at my H and thinks he has lost his mind. H's cousin also thinks that. My H has never even told him why he left me and they were very close before this happened. The cousin has caught him in so many lies, but never lets on that he knows he is lying.
Their D and my youngest D are very close and she stays with us quite a bit. Yesterday afternoon they wanted to go out to eat, but first they ran to Wal-Mart. They called and told me that my H's cousin and his wife be joining us for dinner out.
While we were at the restaurant cousin's cell phone rings and it's my H. Cousin tells him he is at Chili's and my H said oh, I'll talk to you later, I don't want to disturb your dinner. Cousin did not tell him who all was with him and his family. H then calls my D and she tells him she's at Chili's and he said oh you are with J and them. She said yeah. He said oh, well I'll talk to you later then.
Afterwards my D and their D and I did a little shopping. H called D again while we were in a store and asked where she was. He said so J bought your dinner and my D said yeah and dessert. That was basically the extent of the conversation.
J's D spent the night with my D. Today J's wife came over to swim with us. Her D said what's Dad doing? She said he's at B's shop (my H). J's wife said OW must be out of town because J and B met early for breakfast and to go over some plans. Usually when J calls B early on Sat. he lies and makes up some lame excuse why they can't get together. Of course, he is at OW's house. J said I don't know why he just doesn't admit it to me. He knows I know, because everyone is talking about them.
J's wife told me that J called B and told him that we all had eaten together. B said I bet they were talking about what a SOB I am. J said why would you say that? J said the women were at one end of the table talking and I was by the teenagers talking. B said I just figured they were saying I was a SOB.
Okay, so why is my H so worried about what we are saying about him? Guilty conscience? Why doesn't he admit he is involved with OW to his family and friends?
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Okay, so why is my H so worried about what we are saying about him? Guilty conscience? Why doesn't he admit he is involved with OW to his family and friends?
Exactly, my H has been worried about other people and what they say or think about him since day one. He is so worried that if I spend any time with his family all we do is sit around and talk about him. Does he really think that he is that important? Our WAH have no idea that life is going to go on without them. Your H is ashamed of being involved with OW that's why he won't tell anyone. My H straight up lied to everyone in his family when they asked if he was still seeing OW way back in December. He said no way, it's over. He's still seeing her today. Actually, I think that he went to family reunion with her this weekend. Yeah, it's over all right!
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