We've come a long way baby!!!!!

[Kim07]

Root,,I know i've talked to you before but am not sure if you remember me. I hope you get thru these feelings you just mentioned quickly!

I'm at a loss at this point in time,,I have the DB queen herself telling me that my M is not savageable and that 4 yrs separated is too long! Then an H who I think is stringing me along to postpone a D in order to make sure I don't get anything! I think i've hit rock bottom and i'm trying to get myself back up but is hard.

Your wisdom is great, and I enjoy reading your posts! Do you have any advice on how I proceed w/a 'D' with someone who Michele says is "cavelier"? I'm an emotional wreck and he is pissed that I want to divide everything including his busineses, 401k, life Ins., etc. and has the gall to ask me for $300/mon in child support when we both have the kids 50/50?! Everyone tells me that he is stringing me along, gives me just enough attention(but no sex) to keep me from filing w/mediator or atty,,(H wants us to do it ourselves & not get the earlier 2 mentioned involved),,but H has a lot more money than I but denies it! Has started a couple businesses w/o me knowing & I found out on my own later, they are like subsiduaries of the main one! The other wk we had a fight, I was very mean I have to admit but I was frustrated w/him not noticing my changes,,oops, there those changes went right thru the window,,then thur. I tell him that we need to meet to figure out what we need to split, then get into an R talk-not good-H says I don't agree w/Michele, I thought that the C we had before gave us all the right tools to use to save our M but we didn't use them(maybe 2wks for each) then I told him that that C was just interested in us D'ing has been waiting for me to get so fed up knowing that H would never move in w/me even tho he(C) was setting dates & H was postponing everyone of them, that i'd say enough is enough, 5-6yrs w/C(not our 1st either) to work on our M, while we are living in separate houses(4+yrs) & I told you I couldn't handle the bills alone,,he didn't care! He never came back! H is still seeing the same C, i'm not for various reasons. I've gotten nasty or very patronizing e-mails from H and we never go anywhere together since last year its' always separate, we don't see each other unless its' for boys scout functions or to pick up or drop off boys. H doesn't initiate, I use to until I read the book & decided to stop only to find H going dark! Last time we ML was in April after a planned R talk@my house & even then he had to get drunk to do anything! Can't understand this,,I thought if I withheld sex that that would bring him closer to me,,sex has never been a problem for us,,has always been fun & diff.!

How did you put up w/the lies?? My H lies even about stuff w/the kids and where they go when they are w/him! Has kept me from HIS side of the family(very hurtful)!I am getting C'ing for the kids (H told me that kids are fine they don't need it & if you take them-you pay for it!) NICE!!

SORRY FOR THE HIJACK!! I WAS JUST ON A ROLL!

Thanks, Kim