I'm glad you understood what I meant by the possibility that your pressure on her inability to orgasm at the moment could be making her feel she's not good enough any more.
I didn't mean to imply that your own performance was in question just that she could sense your own unhappiness that you wanted to give her pleasure but the fact that she was unable to respond in the way that you want her too could make her even less likely to respond.
Lou you misunderstood I think when I was using the ED situation to try to explain what I meant.
In some ways it is similar and is recognised as a female disfunction problem and as you will know they are looking at a drug for women similar to viagra. Actually may be available in America already.
Trouble is when you have surgery many women DO NOT feel as sexy when you lose your breasts or womb so you CAN'T act as sexy as you did because that is not who you are any more. Part of what made you feel like a woman is gone and the fear of the future is still there.
Yes it can be overcome and logically it doesn't make sense but hey since when has a woman been logical???? LOL I'm allowed to say that cos I'm a woman.
Betsey good luck with your surgery hopefully you'll feel better and keep us posted.
