I just got back from a vacation and had to catch up on your thread. One thing I wanted to comment on was the MC. Are you still trying to talk your wife out of the divorce? Or did you hope the MC might do that? You need to consider if trying to talk her out of it only seems to make her more determined to go through with it. I personally think your better chance is to support it.... Not "it" but HER decision. Whatever it be. By supporting her decision she's responsible for it and has nothing to fight against. By having your "support" she's fully responsible for the decision and you have the best chance of tension decreasing.
Oh man, when you were massaging her back you should have blown in her ear!!! Instead of doing the expected, try doing the unexpected. And when she brings up divorce either change the subject or just agree or say... it will all be over soon enough, don't worry so much, the lawyers will take care of that.
And BE HAPPY in front of her!!!!! (even if you are falling apart!!! Be a great actor).
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
