Perhaps your husband is in MLC... either way, just giving him space to think and figure things out, while being cordial, smiling, and friendly (without ANY pursuit on your part!!!!), should be a safe reaction to his behavior

I'm very sorry to hear how your daughter feels about her father. Unfortunately that type of situation, and her feelings are not so unusual. Please make sure you make her the center of attention when she's with you (you'll have a "best friend" for life if you do!). Is there a grandfather (or maybe an uncle) who spends time with her, or would be willing to give her some extra attention? Some type of positive male role model?

Well, I hope your week went well. Mine started off good, but then I went into some negative thought patterns and I'm having a hard time pulling away from them. This is something I haven't done in a long time (the last time was Mammoth this last winter). Anyhow, things started off well. We all seemed to be having a great vacation. Lots of joking, fun, joking about my daughter's complaining, singing silly songs, etc... But then after about three days I fell into negative thought patterns. I started thinking that my husband had a better time with OW when they went on vacation together (no kids, just romance...), and they did more fun things (I don't have the details, but I know it must have been good because he wouldn't have hung onto her so long... \:\( Also, I'm struggling with the negative feelings I have about being "second choise" or "the default relationship." If OW had left her husband, my husband wouldn't have come back to me. It's a bad feeling. I'm not his first choise. I'm the rebound. When I think about this it makes me feel very sad.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.