In a HUGE majority of these cases the WAS do come to thier senses eventually. However, they have to hope and pray that the LBS DID NOT MOVE ON.
Based on what do you make this statement? I have been coming around for years and most WAS stay gone.
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I have been reading a lot of articles, books and websites other than this one. I have read from both the side of LBS, WAS and OP. I have found that of the three the OP seem the most emotionally damaged and endure a worst roller coaster than anyone. I found in reading that many many many on different sites know and acknowledge it is a dead end relationship and often IF the LBS is willing to take the WAS back then the marriage is reconciled.
I have noticed too that on the DB website many stories do not work out. However, you have to wonder how many people just felt they didn't need it any longer because things started looking better in their M and they decided to stop communicating here in order to work on their marriage.
Rejoice ministries website has many many testimonies of reconciled marriages and they too talk about cases where the LBS does not want the spouse back. My pastor also addressed this in a recent sermon. He said that many do come back but then see or feel their spouse moved on.
I have heard statistics stating that only 1-10% of men actually leave their wives.
I have threads where the WAS regretts not working out with thier spouse and if they had the chance they would.
I did state "eventually" and IF the LBS did not move on. But statistics say that most do come back. Even in MLC as per the Conways.
We have to face the fact that we all do not know what the future holds for people who did appear to "move on." People do divorce and remarry down the line as well.
For me I look for positive stories. They keep me going.
I will acknowledge though I have also read that when the WAS is a woman the chances of reconciliation is less, but its not impossible. Nothing is impossible through God.
