IMP you tell me what is going on? I told H on Monday I was done and moving out of state to be close to sis. Now all of a sudden he is calling me babe, darling. What the f&%@. He hasn't used those terms in over a year.
Now he never told me he was in MLC. Some of the MLC fits and the rest I think fits depression.
Yes I am sure I will be paying a big price, but come on now it's been awhile and I could just really enjoy some dam good fun!
I don't know what H's deal is!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Look at it this way. He could be living the "superior male" attitude. (no offense to the guys...it could be turned around the other way too) It's cake eating. If he's getting it from OW and you too...then what an ego boost! Be careful. You need to guard your heart. If this is something that you want to do...just be careful of what this could do to you.
M-38 H-40 MLC S15 A started in 5/05 S in 12/05 D in 05/06 re-M in 07/06 A FINALLY over as of 5/07
Yes, I agree with johns...this turned my 'ex' into an ego-maniac. It made him worse. I had read where it may be a good idea to keep this connection with your ex. I'm not so sure...I believe it complicates things more. I did like myself afterward. My heart was in the right place...but he doesn't have one. lol
Now, if you are doing it strictly for 'some damn good fun' as you put it...that is a personal matter for only you to decide.
Yeah jb. I don't like that take on it, but could be what is going on. I miss H, but at the same time think I could do just fine on my own too.
For the first time this week I finally let it all go. Wished him well with OW and gave him the heartfelt goodbye.
Now I have to deal with this! Oh and then on Wednesday he sends me some computer screen scrolling the words "I still love you".
Now H has not used those words in about a year with me on his own. Meaning in the beginning if I said them he would reciprocate and then we both stopped all together in the past 6 months. Now he sends this message.
I really don't get it!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
When men are in MLC there like dogs. Being with the OW has well to say it nicely taught him a few tricks. He probably wants to try these tricks on you or wants to get you into something kinky. I suggest you keep the talk going but only talk no matter how much you feel like having sex. There's a term for WAS who want both their spouces and OW. It's called "Cake eater" they want the best of everything. A typical selfish MLC behavior. Hopefully your H isn't having an MLC - its a terrible situation to be. Now I have a few questions for you. First how old are you and your H? How long have you been married? Any children or are you pregnant. Finally has you H experienced any strange behavior lately. Maybe lost a lot of weight, tatoos, piercings been going to the gym lately. This will help determine if he's having an MLC.
BTW - I've been at this for too long. To long of a time to go without having any sex and I don't think my W is having an affair.
Fixer (Don't let the name fool you. I'm just offering you my opion which you can take or leave or even tell me I'm full of crap.)
Mickey I love it. It just might be some dam good old fun for me. H is out doing who knows what. If he wants to come crawling around for some, well I might just have to give in.
Maybe H will be paying the price this time.
Just cuz I jump in the sack, doesn't mean it's going to break my heart. That was already done. Now maybe it's my time to mess a bit with H. He's been messing with my mind all year.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
My ex played 'head games' and it ruined our relationship. It ruined my feelings for him and I don't even want to be friends with him. I found him disgusting and it hurt what I thought we had at one time even more. Lots of damage. Food for thought.
