Stewart, You are going through completely normal ponderances right now. If she wants space, give it to her. This is tough as He!!. As far as changes, they will take time for W to notice. Mine took about 3-4 months before she started to acknowledge them. Remember, they know you inside and out and are convinced you cannot change. A wise DB'er once advised me to start focusing on the positives in my sitch, it helps establish the right mindset. Try writing a journal about the days events and your feelings. And then a half hour later go back adn do it again focusing on the positives through this same time period. See which one makes you feel better, which one is harder to write. This little excercise should help to get you in the right mindset. Remember go into this with a beginners mind. Do what works and scrap the stuff that doesn't. Keep up with the changes, you need to be doing these for yourself, not W.
