I agree with you, my W just might have to learn from her mistakes when it comes to this sitch. I am living this sitch and have felt this for sometime now. I really do not hold out much hope on her words and actions anymore. I used to try to feast on the crumbs that she throws me. She rightnow is detremined to go through with this D and knowing her personality until she really gets knocked down she will not have learned her lesson. I just hope that she doesn't cause to much more damage with family. They all have been hurt by all of this and that might make it hard to reconcile in the future. Especially with my IL's they deep down don't think that their daughter is in the right, but they are in the spot of loving/sympathizing her no matter what choices she makes. I have a hardtime with this but like they say blood is thicker then water. So much for leave and cleave...
I am glad you see hope for me because rightnow it is hard for even me to see it anymore. My friend today, one that has walked with me since day one, asked me how he can keep me accountable in the future to stay active in my DD's lives. This thought came from the fact that I told him statistically speaking the parent that doesn't have primary custody in 6 months typically starts fading away out of the kids lives... I feel this is crazy and won't happen to me and my girls, but I never thought D would happen between my W and I.
Another fun comment from my W today is that he thinks that I am up to something. What I do not know. I asked what it was that she thought I was up to but she would not answer..... What could she think that I am up to??? Hell if I could do something that would let me get custody of my kids I would. But I think that is unlikely even if I stack the deck in favor of me.
