Why do these things happen IV

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[quote=789]I am off and running for the next hour or two.

Jazz, Jr, NM, LFH, Amy and anyone else that wants to chime in
I would really appreciate any insight / opinions / 2x4's .


I know it is wierd, but today is still the best day I have felt emotionally in months.

well, you had an honest conversation with your W, some good things came of it, and you can focus on yourself for a little while now. I'm not a fan of the dating part, but that's something you guys worked out, so good for you, at least you're being up-front and honest about it.

Well just got back from her place. She brought up some of the same things and a couple more.

I don't think she wants me to date, I think that was her way of saying go out, do things, stop obsessing about her. I also don't think she wants to date either. I guess if it happens it does, but don't see it happening, I will disappear and make her wonder sometimes, haven't done that yet.

The going dark thing may be the key, she HAS to have some time to miss you. If you're always there it always feels the same to her. Now you go out, you do things, you go places, and she's wondering where you are and what you're doing and that gets her interested again. That could be very good.

I agree, she did not use this terminology, but she said that is what she wants, dark, from both of us, she wants to miss me! Those were her words.

It really sounds like she just needs a little time and you'll be in a place where you can get things resolved. How's your patience stacking up? I know, mine's crappy too

Your right, I am going to give it to her and actually be comfortable about it now. Her other big issue was my ups and downs with whatever she says, I agreed with her completely and said it stops and stops now.

Now for the kicker, she also made the comment that in the past she has wanted to hug me when I left, but was/is afraid I will take it as more. With me promising to stop analyzing everything, she asked if it was okay to hug me when I leave sometimes.

Oh, no 2x4's needed, I don't think...

Come on, it's friday.