Ok Personal ? Here... Curious!

[glamgirl]

I just want to know does anyone here still have sex with their WAS? If so, are they with OW or OM? Are you separated? If you do, how do you handle your feelings?

Does anyone have sex talks with WAS?

Just some questions. Anyone care to share?

[MidwesternGirl]

I really don't think many have those talks with their WAS's just like they really know it is not right to have R talks.

You have to remember that you cannot quite talk to the MLCer about topics such as sex with their spouse or R talks. I think we kind of discussed this on another thread.

[glamgirl]

Ok Steelers, but H is having those conversations with me. I am just not sure what they are about or how to handle them.

He watches the kids on Sunday and am preparing myself for what might happen.

Now granted, he might just be joking with me, but what if he isn't. Do I just have some fun?

[MidwesternGirl]

I think it is entirely up to you.

I cannot advise you as I feel it is a personal thing between a husband and a wife.

[glamgirl]

Thanks Steelers. I am not sure where this is going, that's why I wanted to know if others have been in my situation.

Believe me I wouldn't mind having some fun, but I really want the whole package.

Since, he was messing with my mind today. I fired off a dirty sexy e-mail to him, just to get his attention.

Treading in new water!

[MidwesternGirl]

Isn't your H recently new to MLC? Just be prepared for a lot of back and forth, changing his thinking from one day to the next, coming home, leaving again, etc.

[glamgirl]

H has been in MLC at least a year. Recently I stood my ground with him and am wondering if this is why suddenly he has experienced some changes.

I think he thinks he is loosing me and now is going to try to suck me into his vacuum again over and over.

I am not into the rollercoaster ride! Thanks Steelers

[MidwesternGirl]

Well, if you are into boundaries, you could go that route if you are not comfortable.

One year is a relatively short time. As you know some have been in MLC for longer. It is all individual but yet so many similarities.

He is not living at home, right?

Does he live by himself?

I am kind of reminded of some verses in the Bible where it says for wives to submit themselves to their husbands and vice versa.

I suppose that would be for another topic.

[inmyplace]

Now granted, he might just be joking with me, but what if he isn't. Do I just have some fun?

glamgirl, we men usually don't joke unless we mean it.

But I really have to ask you a question? What is going on there? I just read your posts and I can't tell s**t from them except that he left, you're tired of his s**t, he watches kids on Sunday while you work and he looks at porn. Did he tell you he is in MLC?

As for sex, that is up to you. Just remember everything comes with a price.

IMP

[glamgirl]

H is not living at home. As far as I know he is living with OW. Then why is he having sex talk with me?

I don't want to read too much into it. I only wish he would just come home or we both just move on.

Everytime I try to move on the vacuum comes around. H is nice, complimenting me, calling all the time. You I am sure know the drill. Then I get sucked in again and it just goes on and on.