Dave, Your situation sounds like mine. I don't think my wife has had an affair though. The W still lives with me and the kids but we don't share the same bed. We do communicate pretty well lately but noithing else. In counseling the other day (which I think is a waste of time sometimes) I told her that if she thought she would be happier, then I would move out. She said no. I told her sometimes I felt like we are just putting off the inevitable. She said that she didn't even think it would come to that. I don't really know what that means though. Back to the counseling "waste of time".....I say that sometimes because I feel like she has got to get back theat feeling of love and attraction for me and I don't think counseling will do that. But I am glad she agreed to go. We went out to dinner tonight and to play miniture golf with the kids but that is about it. She is actually playing a video game and I am in the other room on the computer. I do find her very attractive and it hurts that I can't touch or show any emotion. We both have had a rough year or two where I think that neither of us were happy but now it's like I have fallen in love all over again. I try to give her as much space as possible. She also said that she needs to be happy as a person before she can concentrate on us. I think there is a little MLC going on also. I don't know if the unhappy relationship caused this or is this just a cause of the MLC. Who knows? I hope she comes around....it's so hard to keep going on like this. But you probably know this better then I do. You have been at this a few months longer then me. Hang in there she might be beginning to come around with admitting the affair.
