Nic, I don't think you are the only one that is feeling attacked here. We cannot base our opinions of what is going on with others on one experience. OT's H's experience with his XW does not explain away our H's behavior or the OW's either. Our H's are so confused don't think they really know what they are doing. My belief (which I won't try to push on anyone else) is that Satan has a hold on my H and that is why I pray everyday for his salvation.
Take care, Nicola. It will get better but it just takes time. Your H's OW is more than likely needy and insecure, especially now that she has met you and knows that you are no monster.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
like he can't remember from one moment to another what you said.
Of course, whenever my ex husband was on the phone with work or family, etc, I would always attempt to leave the room or not pay attention. Gladly, I missed many calls with his whatever you want to call her.
I refuse to call a 55 year old boring woman a girlfriend. sorry.
I am sorry you feel disrespected. I am trying to just let go of this whore, and all of this madness. That is why I agreed with what oldtimer had to say about some stuff.
You rest up, This hurts down to the core mamma, and i was not taking that away from you at all.
CLINKING my glass of wine with yours
“Pray as though everything depended on God. Work as though everything depended on you.”
have not caught up with the thread but HAD to comment about the ow not having ill feelings toward YOU....
ummm OMG, what if she DID? You'd be drawn and quartered I guess. I mean, if she actually does not hate you but was willing to help dismantle your family and end your M, we can only imagine what would have happened if she had used her powers for evil... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
OW told my H (she does not know me at all) that she hates me because I am his wife, and that she is very jealous of me. Will do anything to see our marriage fall apart. But she feels sorry and cries for my kids because of this and she has never met my kids either.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
"My belief (which I won't try to push on anyone else) is that Satan has a hold on my H and that is why I pray everyday for his salvation."
This is the absolute truth as far as I am concerned and we have to realize that it is satan, not our husband's. We have to first pray for their salvation followed by restoration of this marriage.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry you feel attacked. I am not at all trying to excuse or defend H's behavior or OW's behavior. I'm not sure what suggested that I was. Indeed, I suggested H's guilt might explain his behavior. My point is only that it does nothing to help YOU to put your energy there. There is no telling what is going on between them and in the end it doesn't really matter.
As for your thoughts about what is going on with H and OW, I have no idea if what you think is going on or not. It may very well be. Like I said, who knows? You deserve better than to let their antics impinge on your life in terms of worrying about what is going on in their R. It just isn't worth it and doesn't get anywhere.
I was also writing in a general way on this thread because I thought it was a general topic. It is hard to see so much wasted energy dumped into worrying about the Rs between WAHs and OWs.
You are right, I am not trying to attack you. My interest is encouraging people to stop putting energy into people who are hurting the LBSs, rather than putting it into them. In particular, you deserve your attention a lot more than they do!
