Why do these things happen IV

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Okay, here is todays phone convo to the best of my memory.

She called because she thought we should finish the talk we had last nite, also to let me know when I showed up she was mad, but as now softened that stance.

She has no plans to file for divorce right now or anytime soon.

She wants me to stop falling or rising on every word or statement she makes, she knows me well.

She acknowledged my past again and does have sympathy towards it.

Without saying really saying it, I think she wants to miss me, so after tonight I and her are both going dark, I know that sounds kinda wierd but she thought that would be best for now, she did not use the word dark but I got what she meant. With that in mind we do want to do stuff together with son from time to time during the month.

We are going to talk to son tonight or in near future. This is what we decided at the moment to say, could change.
"Son, you already know mommy and daddy do not live together and for now we do not know what is going to happen. We want you to know that both of us love you dearly and will always be your parents no matter what happens.
Mommy and daddy do love each other but right now we cannot be together, but we also want to do things as a family." can't remember the rest at the moment.

Now here is the wierd part, I have seen people in these boards mention it from spouses, but the way she said it, it did not come out sounding bad, so I want to know if it is, I actually do not really think she would, but who knows.
She said she would like me to go out and date, and she would like to also, she said if that was something I could handle, she would want some ground rules.
1st - Our son never hears or sees anything.
2nd - We do not hide it from each other.
3rd - If it becomes sexual we also do not hide that.
4th - Always safe sex.
5th - If we can work it out, we do not hold it over the others head, especially if one does and the other does not.
6th - Both get tested if we work it out, even if neither says or has done anything.

I actually don't think I could, I really don't think she could either, but if it should happen, I know I could forgive in a heart beat, and she would not hold it over my head either. Now if this happened while together, that would be another story, I don't think I could handle it. Now for a little background on wife, I am her first and only, not that it is a smart thing to agree with, but maybe it is something she needs to get out of her system, I on the other hand have had, well enuff said. Am I wierd or stupid if I agree to this ?

I know alot more was said but my memory is a blank now.

I can say it was probably the best discussion we have had this year. I am not really any more hopeful or less hopeful than before, but heck, she talked. I am actually feeling great about this, I am feeling that I can let go and be happy. I think it is time for me to really go out and GAL without feeling guily which I have been feeling when I go and do something.