Why do these things happen IV

[789]

Yeah, that talk sound pretty good.

I actually do believe it did.

I think the WAW's need to do some of the work too, at some point. Sometime in all this, they have to let us know what's going on in their head!

I agree, both spouse have to do some work. As for now, I do not think she is ready to let me know what is going on her head, but that is okay now. She told me that she knows I love her, she has never had a doubt in that.

It's completely unfair (and I know life isn't fair) for them to say they don't know what they want. YES THEY DO! They want a happy family life, they want a loving husband, they want to feel loved, they want to enjoy life, they are just like the rest of us! We all want to be happy. They either take one more chance on their family now or blow it up and go try somewhere else! Why do they think someone else would be able to make them happy?

I think she does want this happy family, but something is holding her back, time will only tell. I honestly think she is going to go out and try and see if she can find that happiness with someone else. I am actually okay with that also, when she finds out that even if she is having fun, or heck even having some sex, and finds out life as a whole is not better, I think that will be an eye opener for her, "I actually do not really want the sex part to happen.".

We as the LBS's have to discover their love languages, treat them how they deserve to be treated, give up all selfishness (no, not to be a doormat, that's not giving up selfishness) and forgive each other and BE HAPPY! It's really not that hard.

I shall do my best on my end.

789, I think your W is closer than you think, how long have you been separated? About the same as me I think. Maybe you need to do what Jazz did and pull away a little. Make her miss you. With you there (or on the phone, or whatever) all the time, she doesn't ever miss you and miss what good you had in your relationship.

That is to be seen, for actual seperation, first week in March, so 3+ months, but have not gone more than 1 full day without seeing each other. I agree with your last sentence, neither of us have had a chance to really miss each other and I think that is what she really needs.



More to come.