My H does the same thing to me. It has been 7 months since our seperation and his affair started about Aug/Sept 2006. It seems that every few months he makes comments to me about us. This proves to me that he has not completely let me go. I once told him that I knew he was putting his feelings on the back burner and not dealing with it. He agreed to this. However, he is still with OW and now tells me that he wants to be with her and have a future with her. I have gotten tired of his games and decided to completely move on. I feel that he isn't quite finished with me, and that when I am doing even better than I am today, then he will try again. It is hard because we have 17 month old twins. I just keep thinking, "What kind of man leaves his wife, who just had his babies?" I cannot stand to be with someone like this. I feel like I have lost all respect for him. I hope things work out for you and only you. In the end, you will have to be the one to decide what is best for you. I say that if you and your H decide to work on things, he needs to prove himself first and do some soul searching on his own. You have been doing yours for months, while he has been occupied with OW. Then, from there.....who knows. I wish you the best of luck and keep focusing on yourself.
