ndeed, quit calling her OW. It seems as though H has made very clear to you that he has exited the M. That means you are no longer W, so she is not OW. She is the single W in his life as a romantic P right now. Call her his GF. It will be better for you. She remains OW only as long as you feel are, and are entitled to be, the W in WAHs life. You are not in his life as a romantic partner and love is not about entitlement.
I am not sure I agree with this. Just because one person decides to be done with the M does not make the marriage over, neither legally or morally. The other women got involved in a R with a man that in most cases they knew was not married to someone else.
My H's OW was a close friend of ours, she went to a concert with a friend and me one week, sympathizing with how much I still loved my H and the next week pursued my H and slept with him. This is the truth, not my truth but was witnessed by other friends of ours. She confided in a mutual friend that she was tired of not having any extra money and was going to do something about it. This friend doesn't even speak to her anymore because she told her it was wrong.
H and I had been talking and had a brief romantic encounter that I know scared him because he didn't want to come back to the same problems. I am not trying to offend but does this sound like a simple case of finding a GF? I don't think so. Some people have no morals and no compassion for others they are just so insecure and have to have a R that they will step on anyone to get what they want. That was almost one year ago and I still can't wait until it blows up in their faces because I know it will.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
