JR I would really like to think I have to fortitude and she has it in her heart for me to wait forever. But forever is in so many ways unrealistic. Previously I had said labor day and I think I'll stick to that. If I don't see real effort by her by then, I'll have to stop all efforts and just move forward for me and me alone. I'll keep my heart open to her and hope she comes around. But I won't shut anyone else out either.
Well, let's be clear, what is "forever" in this case? Divorce. Once that's done, it's done. Honestly, if my W is SO upset over the things I've done that she HAS to be D'd and can't give us another chance, well that sucks, but so be it. I'm not getting re-married to her, it's her loss. So, forever, in the sense we're talking about here, definitely isn't the eternal sense she and I agreed to when we got married
But Labor day seems fair (how long have you been at this again???) that seems like plenty of time to get something positive going. Just keep that in mind when you get frustrated, take things right to the deadline with the DBing and if it's meant to be, it'll be!
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
