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So you're supposed to come up with an agreement between now and July 9 or so? And that's without your own L?

Just make sure he doesn't take advantage of you, if you decide you're really not going to drag things out.

Good Luck UA. \:\)


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His L is drafting one that he will pick up and review and then let me review/have it reviewed. We will be back in court 12 July @ 8:30 am unless God moves hugely.....


....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am
I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon
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Or I do what?

I'm not writing another letter Jazz. I've apologized so much and you know ... "it's not me, it's him - he just can't get past it"...... Funny you're telling me about God helping me, like I haven't asked?! And you don't even believe in God. What gives?


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Originally Posted By: JazzzGtr
Or you do. Why don't you use my letter as a template and throw up a Hail Mary?

God helps those who help themselves UA.


That's not in the Bible.

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Originally Posted By: *KS*Chick*
Or I do what?

I'm not writing another letter Jazz. I've apologized so much and you know ... "it's not me, it's him - he just can't get past it"...... Funny you're telling me about God helping me, like I haven't asked?! And you don't even believe in God. What gives?


Jazz believes in God.
He does not support organized "religion" because so much of it is man-made.

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and how many Hail Mary's have I thrown?


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Hey girl -- nice to see you \:\)

Whatcha up to today?

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Originally Posted By: *KS*Chick*
and how many Hail Mary's have I thrown?


This is only the end if you decide to let it be.
I hear the bitterness in your posts and I understand it and have felt it myself. Only you can decide just how far you will rise, if at all. You can choose to let this break you, and let bitterness grow in your heart or you can decide to let it turn you into a bigger, better person.

You have a child with this man and therefore even though he's taking the chickensh*t way out, you're still going to have to have some kind of a relationship with him. You can choose to become hardened and let him walk away thinking you've never really changed at all or you can dedicate yourself TO changing and becoming the wonderful, forgiving woman that I know you CAN be.

The choice is yours and you're going to have to make it eventually.

Swallow your pride and choose wisely.

It is possible for you to get completely outside of your own feelings now and to understand his.
I hope you reach a point where you care enough to do that because that's when you're going to learn what love REALLY is.

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Amy you know - if he called me today and said he was sorry, he didn't want this and he wanted to really try, I would.

Right now I can't say that because he's not there. Maybe one day he will be.

I am going to be ok, I know that. I do still love him. If I didn't I wouldn't be hurting like I am. I'd tell him to move on and get out of my life.

I know we share a D and I'm working on being a good person in regards to him and her, but he is choosing the single life, even over her and that is what has me upset right now. He's gone from seeing her daily when he lived here, to still seeing her almost daily when he moved out to now - just on his weekends and she needs him more than that. He's choosing to not acknowledge that.....and is being selfish....and I'm left with "I wanna see my daddy..... "


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Originally Posted By: *KS*Chick*
"I wanna see my daddy..... "


I don't know if this is kosher in the DB methods or not, but if it was me I'd hand her the phone and tell her to call him and tell HIM.

Place the burden where it belongs.

I'll never forget the scene in Hope Floats where the little girl packed her bag and followed her dad out the door. It was a PAINFUL scene, but the little girl finally saw her mom wasn't keeping her away from her dad -- it was on him.

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