Betsey, I understand what you are saying and I know they are difficult issues. My wife got some solace from http://www.hystersisters.com. It may be worth looking into. It has forums for pre and post-op. It even has a FAQ for men although it (if you can believe this) has a question "When can my wife cook?". I've gotta believe I'd have gotten smacked if I had the audacity to even think a question like that.
I will say that the hyst has not affected my W's desirability whatsoever. She is just as beautiful and desirable as ever. In fact she seems to improve with time like a quality wine. It is her desire for sex (or maybe for sex with me) that seems to have been lost. I understand not all medical treatment is for everyone and I will accept the judgement of a doctor if she would just go to one.
Good luck and I hope things work out well for you. I will keep you in my prayers. Just remember what I said about my W. It will not affect your desirability, attractiveness, or sexyness one bit unless you let it.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
