Why is this like this?

[Nomopo]

I was thinking about all of this and it seems like she is trying to push me into making some sort of move here. Make me do something to escalate the situation so then she could have an excuse? not sure....whatever....I need to let go of all of this for a bit...

Could be. You are not living up to her impression of what you are like. That doesn't confirm that she has made or is maing the right decision. She'd feel better about it if you handled it the old way. Not sure about that, but it could be and it makes some sense. I say "good job; keep it up!"