Kim, I am so sorry to hear that. Separated 4 years, you are one strong woman. Don't look at this as a problem with marriage, but a problem with your H. True, there is no way to predict what your next H will do, but you def don't want to go through life being bitter about a douche-bag that didn't treat you right, or care about your marriage. Once he's gone, let him go and have a happy life (I know it'll take a while, but it'll happen).
My grandma was a great woman but she let her divorce from my a-hole grandpa ruin the rest of her life, and she was young when they D'd. Don't let that happen to you.
Good luck, I hope things will go well for you in this terrible time in your life.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
