Amy I wanted to tell you something ironic. When I got into the courtroom, I kept remembering what you said - that I needed to stand. I watched all these other divorces granted in under 10 minutes, almost all of them sitting at a table.
Because we didn't have the agreement in place, and I had to talk to his lawyer in the hall, and then we had to go back in - we didn't have a chance to sit at a table. We stood - two feet from the judge.
He asked me if I was seeking an attorney, etc. etc. and then H's L told him about the "agreement to an agreement" and he asked me if I agreed. I kind of shrugged my shoulders and said I know we can come to an agreement on the other items - I just don't want this divorce so I can't agree to that. Of course he told me gently LOL that it didn't matter and I said I knew that.......which was what sent me into tears.
So anyhow - I'm off again today - taking time, and actually sleeping a lot......
Hey girl. I've been thinking about you a lot. I'm proud of you.
And I can't wait for you to rise back up...
With righteous anger.
I'd love to be a fly on the wall to watch him when he kicks himself!
What makes me the most angry right now is what he's doing to D. He went from seeing her daily, to seeing her at least every day after school to seeing her just on his weekends and it's taking a toll on her and on me. She's emotional, smart mouthed lately and cries about everything. And this is just the beginning. I was thinking we need to talk to her so she knows what's happening but then I don't want to. I don't know what to do.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
I go through the same thing with my D's and I really don't know what to tell you to do except try to remember where that anger is coming from. Hang in there with her and stand your ground on the important things and pick your battles on the rest. If confront him about this it will push him further away from her...in my exp atleast...
I have been reading along but really have had nothing that could have been helpful other than I have been thinking about you and you are in my prayers.
Sorry about everything my friend and it will get better.
Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
What makes me the most angry right now is what he's doing to D. He went from seeing her daily, to seeing her at least every day after school to seeing her just on his weekends and it's taking a toll on her and on me. She's emotional, smart mouthed lately and cries about everything. And this is just the beginning. I was thinking we need to talk to her so she knows what's happening but then I don't want to. I don't know what to do.
You need to have a talk with her. She was having behavioral problems when you first came here. Set the boundaries and enforce them or she'll walk all over you by the time she's 12.
UA and Amy, I know there are a lot of serious things going on over here but I am dying for some motherly advice on my thread. Do not meant to hi-jack but My son just stole a pack of gum from Mejiers. I know small apples compared to what you are going through UA and I am sorry to inturrupt for something that seems really minor.
Ben
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Amy she'd been doing a lot better. This week has just been hell for whatever reason. Don't worry though - I'm not caving in on anything (although he does when he has her...)
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
