Charcoal, Abby, and Floyd, thanks for coming by and paying a visit.

Quoting Floyd:
I do have a history of anxiety/depression that runs in my family though, and some people believe that it can be a chemical imbalance that causes it. I am not real sure, but I think it is a possibility that could be part of it. Might think about that with your W too, if she has a history of it in her family. Just a thought.
Well, I don't think there's any history. I simply think that it's a result of her stress over this entire mess. It's been building up for a long time now and needs an exit. I just have to try and help her through it. She hasn't really had an episode since that one night...although the following day there were a few close calls. Yesterday was good. She also seems pretty good herself...chipper and such. I just hope she's dealing with the demons and not pushing them further away. My W loves "fun" distractions.

Quoting LL:
I wonder sometimes if I am in the wrong skin...men seem to need the physical contact to feel close...and that is the way I feel...women seem to need the emotional connection to feel close and feel it spoiled when it leads to physical contact that is sexual...me when the emotional doesn't lead to physical I tend to feel a bit resentful...and start to wonder who's who in this r...
perhaps even though our r's are not sex starved (though sometimes I feel it is) we should read michelles new book.
Have you always felt this way...or just since the problems really cropped up with you two? I think for us, LL, is that we have been last on the list of getting attention from our Ses for so long that we long for any kind of connection, physical or otherwise. I imagine that over time, as things continue to move in a postive direction, that your H will become more physically attentive to your needs while simultaneously, you won't "need" it as much anymore. This is kind of what's happening with me right now.

In terms of the Sex Starved Marriage, I don't know that it really fits my sitch. I have a thriving libido, so I have to keep it under control so as to not tick my W off. I have to say, she's pretty good about that kind of thing, so I have to balance my needs with hers. She does let me "win" pretty often, though. Lately, I haven't felt these "needs" so much, and I think it's because she's meeting my needs in other ways. Again, LL, I simply think that over time, as your H meets your other needs, this will diminish.

Nothing much going on lately. Just some normal Jethro days that most of us long for so much. The mundane doesn't seem quite so mundane anymore, does it?

Thanks everyone.

jethro