You are handling this very admirably Choc (not that it makes you feel any better about your M falling apart)

She might get herself a real dose of reality when she talks to them. If they are not aware of the REAL situation and what has caused this M to possibly breakup, they might not give her sound advice. However, your attorney will be well aware of her infidelity and if she is adamant about pushing forward with a D, there might be some back pedalling when she finds out she might not get a penny because of it - you will be solely responsible for the kids and nothing more.

And the saga continues (but we are all here, cheering you on)

Take care

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)