Swashy, I have visited from time to time, keeping track of all the bow and arrows flung and such. I had to chime in for a couple of reasons. One-I think you have TRULY acheived what you set out for (well, at least half). I really think your self esteem is rather vast actually. You have found YOURSELF.
I have to agree with you Swashy on the unconditional love aspect of things. I actually think of it in different terms...I think of it more as non-judgmental. To be a FRIEND doesnt mean you are a doormat...it means that allow the person to be who they are...it doesnt mean that you contribute to it.
Second-I also agree with your take on that she will now have to start over and will most likely confront the same problems and hope for different results...as will you. But you have a "healthy" perspective so you are already ahead of the game.
Not much more to add with this vaccuum like mind I carry around but just wanted to at least throw a thought out there. You should be proud of yourself...even though you're a Pats fan! peace....
