Thanks guys you are all so sweet and making me cry,,, yeah I know I am a beautiful person and by that I mean who I am ( beauty fades),,, and no I dont want to be a TROPHY wife,,, when I saw the movie stepford wives years ago I thought wow he would be better off ordering one of those cause I am real and not a ROBOT. Thanks you all for your support I really need it today,, I feel like I want to just give up on my M.... he needs help.