Thanks much everyone. Been very busy at work, so getting to the boards is difficult these days.
Quoting Sage:Your post reminded me of an article on trust from Yoga Journal.
Thanks very much, Sage. I only got an opportunity to read part of it, but I definitely plan on reading the whole article. Gotta love the Yoga stuff.
Quoting lizbeth:I think your comments to your W were very clear and she showed she was listening to you.
Thanks, lizbeth. Yeah, she does seem to be really listening these days... Today I mentioned that I felt we were doing okay, but the last week or so I've felt like we've drifted a bit. I mentioned that I thought we needed more time together. She agreed. Jeez...when one's WAS agrees to spend more time with you, something's gotta be working.
Quoting LL:you are in no shape or form a wimp
Thanks, LL.
Quoting charcoal:You could ask her to call you every hour. I wouldn't mind if my H asked me to do that. I would like to be open about my ex-OM. I mean, shining the light on the boogey man makes it hard for him to be sneaky. I would suggest not being condescending.
Nice of you to stop by, Charcoal. Well, let me see... My W actually does call me just to check in on me and, obviously enough, to let me know she's not fooling around. She did this last night and I thanked her. In terms of being open about OM. Well, she's done that too. But you know what, sometimes I would rather not hear about OM and not put a face or personality to him. I prefer him to be a spectre...not a real human. To do this, it's better that I get little information about him. I like to think of him as inconsequential... Does that make sense?
Quoting KAW:Most of the time the thing to do is to do ... NOTHING. Just ride it out for a while and most times it will pass.
Yes, I've kind of gathered that. It does freak me out, though. Problem is, when I feel this way, I get upset, kind of go back to the old Jethro. Then...the old habits/patterns start coming up. I'm doing my best to try and avoid that. And, at least now I recognize them! I mentioned it to my W today that last weekend I was in a funk, and, as a result, some of the old habits come up. She said she noticed and it makes her wonder if I really am going to stay with these changes. I said I am. She said that it's only natural she feel that way because who I am is someone new and she's not used to me being that way yet... I guess she's still on guard... Interesting...
In any case, thanks to everyone. I VERY much appreciate the support.
