Jethro -- Your post reminded me of an article on trust from Yoga Journal. The link is: Yoga Journal Article on Trust

You might enjoy it since it seeks to distinguish among the different kinds of trust you articulated to your wife.

And, BTW, I don't think there's anything wimpy about the way you're handling your sitch...

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.