Alimari, you are a fabulous beauty with a big heart. Your husband is inventing complaints to bring you down to his level. He is one of them that needs to belittle in order to feel alright. As you get distance on his "problems", as you start to see clearly, he will up the ante. His insults, verbal and active, will become more aggressive.
If you know this and expect it you can plan how to defend your feelings and how to guard your responses. I think it is hilarious that women are calling you. Appreciate the fact that they are threatened by you but resist the inclination to "engage". That will just encourage. It will also please your husband. The thought of women 'fighting' over him twists his tail in a delightful way. He gets off on the drama.
It is important to substitute other currency for that kind of interaction. Please remember that even if you were a troll, it is more important that you are a troll that is well read and has a golden heart. Kindness matters more than appearance.
I am certain your own mother was the sort to follow you around screeching "pretty is as pretty does"!
As one of your numerous Cyber Mothers, I am here to say that you are Pretty in all ways. Just do not worry so much about proving it to your miserable husband. He will just find new ways assure you that you are not! Maybe he needs help feeling like a good man.
It would be right to be grateful for whatever he IS able to provide and tell him that. He is struggling and probably feels like a jerk most of the time. Help to become a better jerk!
