How does one stop fixating on the OW and move on?

[saffie]

Thanks for all you comments guys.
I have ordered all the books everyone has recommended and am awaiting their arrival. Unfortunately I am still on a real low and last night told H that I can't live in this state of anxiety. I feel that I am not functioning properly. I know I should get out and occupy myself more but finding the energy is so hard. I decided to set a review time in a months time and if things are still as bad then I am going to have to take action. I feel at the moment that I am probably erring on the side of leaving but need time to pull myself together and get the strength to do it. I love my H but I need to stop the pain.

Has anyone evr contacted the OW/OH and felt better for it? Have they got any answers or is it always counter productive. I know she no longer features in my H life but she LIVES and PARTIES in my brain and gives me no PEACE. Advice please..../.